1. Online Dating

I keep getting messages in my inbox from random girls (about one message per day or two), so I think it’s time to revisit my online game. Today, we’re going to go over some of the more useful tactics that I’ve used:

2. Love Your Profile

And what I mean by this, is write your profile so that YOU love it. I think too many guys write their profiles around what they think women want to hear. If you’ve seen my profile that I posted months back, then you know that it is nothing like what you’d expect to see. I wrote my profile for me and I love it. It makes me laugh and it conveys who I REALLY am, and not who I think women want me to be. When you write your profile around what you think women want, you just come off as just another boring fake guy that isn’t being real about who he is. The Online Casanova has a great guide, but I didn’t listen to a thing he said about writing my profile. Why not? Because being a poetic romantic guy just isn’t me. I am a funny guy, and it shows in my profile. In fact, the majority of the messages I receive are about how funny my profile is. When you enjoy your profile, there’s a good chance that the women reading it are going to enjoy it as well.

3. Contact Who Views You

I don’t even waste my time browsing any online websites. However, I do log in from time to time to check out who’s viewing me. If they’re viewing me, then I know that they were either interested in my headline or my looks. There’s a MUCH better chance of getting a response out of these women, and just about every time that I contact them, they respond. Browsing and sending out a thousand messages is just too time consuming to even bother with.

4. Never Respond Right Away

You want to wait at least a day after receiving a message. When you respond right away to a new girl, it looks like you spend all day on those sites and have nothing better to do with your life. Oh, so you’re just responding right away because you happen to be online? She doesn’t know that. You also want her to anticipate your response. Make her wait.

5. Keep Your Messages Short

I never send more than three or four sentences. Why? When you say all that you have to say right away, you have nothing left to say when she messages you back. That, and when you give everything you have, it puts the pressure on you to push her into meeting up fast, like every other guy. Me? I don’t give a fuck about meeting up fast. I’ll ping with several short messages back and forth for quite awhile. This does two things: One)She is going to wanna have a longer convo with you, thus she is going to start thinking about meeting up with you and Two)When you trade several short messages, it makes it feel like you’ve known each other longer versus trading a couple of really long messages. That, and trading short messages just makes you come off as a guy that is busy and has other options.

6. Seem Unavailable

At the top of my profile I said “DO NOT CONTACT ME IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR ANYTHING MORE THAN FRIENDSHIP”. Why did I say that? I only wanted friends, that’s why. However, this had an interesting side effect: it actually increased the number of messages I received from women, and by the second message, almost all say “but you said that you weren’t available.”. Notice that I never said that I wasn’t available. However, it lowers their guards about me, and women in general want what they can’t have.

7. And Finally, Have Standards.

And I don’t mean fake standards. I mean have real standards. I will only bother with women that I am genuinely interested in. I’ll read their profiles and if they seem really interesting to me, I’ll contact them. I don’t bother with unattractive women and women that have weak profiles that don’t interest me. I don’t have the time for those women. That, and when I do decide to message a girl, I am very genuine, and have something really interesting to say to her. In fact, I qualify every girl I message because I don’t want to waste my time with women that aren’t for me. Again, this makes me authentic to women.